MINDFUL THOUGHTS & SKILLS
BECOMING GENTLE WITH YOURSELF
“You’re doing the best you can…”
“Keep trying…”
“Be Gentle with yourself…”
“You can try again tomorrow…”
“Keep trying…”
“Be Gentle with yourself…”
“You can try again tomorrow…”
The statements above are examples of loving phrases that can become a living example of how you can help love yourself through pain, setbacks, shortcomings, and/or perceived mistakes. How you respond to any type of personal grievance and/or intense emotion is more important than the meaning of the harsh, often critical, and/or punitive judgements themselves. It’s a natural occurrence of life to experience different types of drawbacks, things may not always go your way or in ways you think they should or would like them to be.
Responding to inner pain with harshness and self-hatred or treating the self with anger and punishments is a kind of self-treatment that can become habitual. This habitual act of self-intolerance establishes an unhealthy self-response that can often bleed into dysfunctional behaviors and in how we might treat others. Berating yourself does not help you improve those areas of life and experience that may be painful for you. Self-condemnation can and will make you feel...
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https://www.jennifersmusing.com/inbeauty-blog/becoming-gentle-with-yourself
Responding to inner pain with harshness and self-hatred or treating the self with anger and punishments is a kind of self-treatment that can become habitual. This habitual act of self-intolerance establishes an unhealthy self-response that can often bleed into dysfunctional behaviors and in how we might treat others. Berating yourself does not help you improve those areas of life and experience that may be painful for you. Self-condemnation can and will make you feel...
READ THE REST OF THE BLOG HERE:
https://www.jennifersmusing.com/inbeauty-blog/becoming-gentle-with-yourself
3 MINDFUL EXPLORATIONS TO BECOMING GENTLE WITH YOURSELF
1. NOTICE THAT YOU ARE SUFFERING
Instead of ignoring or avoiding your pain notice that you're hurting. Acknowledge the pain by saying, "this hurts" or "this is stressful." Take a minute to check in and notice what is happening without judgements, criticism or extended dialogue around the event. An example of this is, "This hurts because... this happened... this is what they think of me... etc." Adding extended dialogue creates unhealthy attachment and deepens the pain you feel. Practice being present with what's there without adding on more.
2. ALWAYS REMEMBER, IT'S HUMAN TO MAKE MISTAKES OR HAVE SHORT COMINGS
Acknowledging imperfection and/or setbacks is a normal part of the human experience. We all fall short sometimes, make mistakes and nothing is perfect including, who we are or how we show up at any given moment. Self-compassion doesn't pass judgement or add measurements like good/bad, right/wrong, positive/negative. We learn to observe what is. The reality is sometimes, we all fall short and that's human. You are not alone.
3. SPEAK TO YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD A CHILD IN PAIN
If a child went through what you went through, what would you say to them?
Practice saying compassionate words and phrases to yourself.
HERE ARE SOME SELF-COMPASSIONATE PHRASES AS EXAMPLES:
"Be patient"
" I am a good person"
"Keep trying"
"I love myself the way I am"
"I'm gentle with myself"
"I forgive myself and will try again tomorrow"
"I accept myself for who I am"
"I am not my past"
"I am free to let go of others' judgments"
"I deserve compassion, tenderness, and empathy from myself"
"I'm doing the best I can, and that's enough"
"May I be happy, may I be at peace, may I live with ease, may I be free from suffering"
"I love and accept myself exactly as I am"
"I might not be good at ___ right now, but that is okay: practice leads to my growth and improvement"
Love,
Jennifer
Gentle Touch Healing
Healing through Compassion
Becoming Gentle With Yourself, Inner Beauty Blog/Mindful Thought & Skills, 1/20/2025
- Emotional Wellness Coaching:
https://www.jennifersmusing.com/emotional-wellness-coaching.html
Instead of ignoring or avoiding your pain notice that you're hurting. Acknowledge the pain by saying, "this hurts" or "this is stressful." Take a minute to check in and notice what is happening without judgements, criticism or extended dialogue around the event. An example of this is, "This hurts because... this happened... this is what they think of me... etc." Adding extended dialogue creates unhealthy attachment and deepens the pain you feel. Practice being present with what's there without adding on more.
2. ALWAYS REMEMBER, IT'S HUMAN TO MAKE MISTAKES OR HAVE SHORT COMINGS
Acknowledging imperfection and/or setbacks is a normal part of the human experience. We all fall short sometimes, make mistakes and nothing is perfect including, who we are or how we show up at any given moment. Self-compassion doesn't pass judgement or add measurements like good/bad, right/wrong, positive/negative. We learn to observe what is. The reality is sometimes, we all fall short and that's human. You are not alone.
3. SPEAK TO YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD A CHILD IN PAIN
If a child went through what you went through, what would you say to them?
Practice saying compassionate words and phrases to yourself.
HERE ARE SOME SELF-COMPASSIONATE PHRASES AS EXAMPLES:
"Be patient"
" I am a good person"
"Keep trying"
"I love myself the way I am"
"I'm gentle with myself"
"I forgive myself and will try again tomorrow"
"I accept myself for who I am"
"I am not my past"
"I am free to let go of others' judgments"
"I deserve compassion, tenderness, and empathy from myself"
"I'm doing the best I can, and that's enough"
"May I be happy, may I be at peace, may I live with ease, may I be free from suffering"
"I love and accept myself exactly as I am"
"I might not be good at ___ right now, but that is okay: practice leads to my growth and improvement"
Love,
Jennifer
Gentle Touch Healing
Healing through Compassion
Becoming Gentle With Yourself, Inner Beauty Blog/Mindful Thought & Skills, 1/20/2025
- Emotional Wellness Coaching:
https://www.jennifersmusing.com/emotional-wellness-coaching.html