Sometimes, the thought to compare yourself to others becomes greater than connecting with the value of who you are
Many thoughts move in and out of our minds throughout the day, some are great and others can trigger wound beliefs that can change our experience of ourselves. When the thought pattern, "I'm not good enough" comes to mind, it can awaken wounds around self-worth and inner value. Self-worth is the opinion you have about yourself. Self-value is more informative, it's fueled by self-knowledge. It means, you feel a sense of worth because you know who you are. The experience of your intrinsic value has no other comparison. When you value who you are, know the meaning and purpose of your value, you don't settle. There's no question. You set a self-standard of respect, kindness, and overall goodness because you know it's what you deserve.
HIGHLIGHT YOUR INNER VALUE
WHEN THE WOUND BELIEF ACHES REMEMER
1. Slow down and connect to your body
If you get too far ahead of yourself you can't catch yourself. Slow down and connect with yourself; your body, the sensations moving through you, your thoughts, feelings, and most important of all, connect with what you value. Get clear and anchor in the complete experience not just what the wound thought triggered.
2. The people you compare yourself to are also comparing themselves to others
This is a fact. The people you think have it all together, are trying to figure it all out too. You're not alone. We all feel similar feelings and that softens judgements or jealousy with a greater compassion and understanding. We're all human.
3. There is more right with you than wrong
If you only focus only on the flaws, you miss the beauty of the whole picture. Focus on progress rather than perfection. Keep your sights on what's important to you and gaze toward the things already working really well for you.
4. Your scars are your strength
We hide our past, avoid it, and try to present ourselves to others in pretty little packages. Take yourself in honestly, and embrace the full value of who you are. You worked hard to move from where you were to where you are now and you'll continue to keep going. I can guarantee, nobody else has lived the same life you have. You are unique. Appreciate your journey, every aspect, that helped you arrive to the place you are today, Share it with others, proudly.
6. You only need your approval
When you seek approval, you can easily be swayed or influenced. This leads to feelings of emptiness. The only person responsible for deciding what's worthwhile for you, is YOU. Say yes to you! When you approve of your own choices, you fuel your sense of worth and define what is deserving of your attention.
5. Speak to the wound belief in a reassuring way
You can't hate your way into loving yourself. When you tell yourself you're not good enough it won’t make you any more successful. When you tell yourself you're not doing enough, it won't make you do any more. When you entertain belief wounds that say you’re worthless and unlovable, it won’t make you feel any more worthy or loved. Self-love means to love yourself, regardless of who you are, where you came from and where you stand now, even if you know you want to change. Love yourself through.
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Emotional Concepts & Tools, Highlight Your Inner Value, 3/31/2021
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TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be quite a magical month and fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of holidays and witness the wonder through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis` the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path into giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The season fills the atmosphere with magic; crisp air and snow falling from sky, lights aglow on streets and in homes, long gazes into loved one’s eyes by the crackles of fire and sparks of sweet-hearts. We take care, nestling into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate. We bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones and we find ourselves surround by light, the illumination of our hopes and dreams in the stillness of love within our hearts.
The heart symbolizes life, love and the engagement in partnership. The heart never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other in the direction of union. A sense of union requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through the heart-experience, magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love, while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold what we feel. We are given an opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection and harmony both, individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us in order to create a spark of life, we cannot go at it alone. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification.
This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of self to the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest soulfully in the wonder and awe, completely disarmed and embraced in the natural state of being. The heart leads us to a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of old, a point to nurture life and all that we live for. It is a space given in which to surrender, to lay down a clean slate, to be re-born in concept as we celebrate into the new, calm and cradled in the mother energy, inside the season of heart.
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It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal guidance and experience. Sometimes, the path to healing has us feeling off center and it’s cause for questioning but we forget, feeling off center is also for good purpose. The center balances opposing sides and reveals a place of wholeness. When the scale tips toward into the wound, the other side of balance is overlooked. The gift of wholeness is to be open and available to both sides and to integrate them into conscious balance. Your personal path to healing begins inside wholeness not in one side of experience. Let’s look at pain for example. I’ve thought about pain. Pain is real. Pain is relentless. It reveals itself through the body, not just inside it. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space for joy and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of held in, held back, shut down and buried emotion. Your physical body can become the storehouse for ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed emotional energy. Pain is an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved.
Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit-
Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain?
I have. Pain is a lot more than just what we name it. It’s a culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and unhealthy patterns. Because of this, healing can be an evolution of all experience and acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a direction. All of it is important information to construct a very intimate healing experience. Sometimes the tendency is to give up because you don’t like what you see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time becomes discovery. I thought about pain. I’ve had pain. I’ve worked with pain and then it occurred to me. It came into me like a whole being awareness. The other side of pain, is pleasure. Pleasure. What a revelation! In all these years, it never occurred to me that pleasure was a root deficiency to my experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I never embraced the joy of life and in being because I never thought to look at the other side of what the experience of pain had to offer.
I thank God for that moment in wholeness. It moved me. Pleasure was now in the game and enjoying my life became priority. When you embrace the other side, you stop brow beating the wound. You cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look like the ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. I witnessed no more pushing into life or wanting to force forward. I could feel the grip loosen, I allowed some fun and sweeter foods, exercise was no longer a bloodbath but now conscious movement based on my needs for that day. Yes, I gained some weight but I also embraced that weight and loved myself anyway. My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. It helped me find the opening to the possibility of having pleasure move through me and integrate it into my experience. When you make your healing journey personal; it moves you, it changes you, it transforms you into a state of inner-conscious being. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you take in.
-Releasing Emotional Patterns
#BecomeYourInnerMostBeing #ConsciousBalance #WoundsAreOurGreatestTeachers
#SeektheOtherSide #BecomeWhole #WholnessMatters
AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGS
Jennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others.