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2/16/2025 0 Comments Willingness- An Act of Courage Willingness is the ability to experience emotions without needing to immediately escape or avoid them. It is a sacred place, deep inside all of us that quietly says, “This is what I’m experiencing right now, so I will tune in and experience it.” Therefore, willingness is an act of courage. It is a practical approach in allowing the experience to feel your feelings fully so you can work through them gently. As an emotional wellness skill, willingness is like flipping a switch on your feelings- switching off struggle and turning on peace. The act of willingness helps you take back the energy used to fight your emotional experience and channel it toward the life you want and value.
Emotional wellness begins with learning how to notice emotional energy, tolerate its intensity, and name your feelings without judgment, avoidance, or trying to change them. As much as you may not want to feel painful emotions, it’s just not possible because emotions, feelings, and thoughts are a part of life. They add richness to experiences and are an essential part of feeling alive. The skill of willingness doesn’t exclude these important aspects of life, but it does help tolerate painful emotions easier and can transform pain and suffering. Willingness is the allowance to exist, “as is” so, you can free what’s welling up. It doesn’t mean you want to feel pain or that you like, agree with, or can even change it. It’s a choice to meet yourself where you are and experience the fullness of what you’re feeling, even if it’s uncomfortable or painful. In practice, willingness teaches how to describe what’s there without judgements, labels, or measurements like; good/bad, right/wrong, positive/negative. You invite curiosity. Being curious is a pathway to build a healthier relationship with your emotions and becomes the antidote to pain and suffering. Instead of struggling with emotions, you drop into the body and lean in with interest. You get out of your head and into your body. You learn to acknowledge, describe, name, be curious, and allow what is there to simply be present. You practice compassion, offering yourself and your emotional experience Grace. You begin to be mindful for added “stories, explanations, or questions.” There is a time and place to explore those deeper questions but while you’re cultivating a quality of curiosity in the state of willingness, you learn to notice them as thoughts, acknowledge that they’re there, but refrain from overthinking or dwelling on thoughts themselves. This is a practice in shifting your attention back to your body and what’s happening in the moment of feeling. Remember, emotional energy may be unpleasant, but that doesn’t mean that what you’re feeling is bad. Emotions can be uncomfortable, but they won’t harm you. However, avoiding emotions, struggling against them, or demanding that they go away can lead to behaviors that can be harmful to you. And finally, the act of willingness can guide you back to what you value most. When you put your attention on what matters most in your life, you free yourself to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. This is how you take your power back. MAIN POINTS TO REMEMBER Step 1- Acknowledge what’s present for you. Step 2- Describe where it is located (in or around) your body. Step 3- Describe what you might see: Does it have a color, sound, or smell? Does it change over time? Step 4- Stay in your body as much as possible and be mindful of stories and explanations. Step 5- Shift your attention to what you value. Love Jennifer Gentle Touch Healing Healing through Compassion - Inner Beauty Blog, Willingness- An Act of Courage, 2.16.2025 Emotional Wellness Coaching: https://www.jennifersmusing.com/emotional-wellness-coaching.html
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TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be a magical month for some and a fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of sharing, celebrating, and witnessing a sense of wonder and joy through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path of giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The holiday season fills the atmosphere with magic. The air is crisp and clean, the sun glistens off streets by day and lights aglow in homes by night. There is a sense of warmth, deep nourishment, and care as we nestle into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate or bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones surrounded by light, hope, and the stillness of love in the air and within our hearts.
The heart is full of life and love. It represents engagement in partnership and never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other and always in the direction of union which requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through heart-experience, and this is magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love all the while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold everything that we feel. We are given the opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection, and harmony both individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us to create a spark of life and that we cannot go about doing that alone. It is about togetherness. It is about sharing. It is about giving and receiving. It is all about the ways of the heart. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification. This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of the self into the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest and rejuvenation through celebration and creation, completely disarmed and fully embraced in the natural state of being. Let the heart lead you toward a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of the old self. Let the heart guide you in nurturing your life and all that you live for. Let the heart take you in and give you the space to surrender on a clean slate, to be reborn in conception as you grow into the new, calm and cradled in the Divine feminine, inside the season of heart. Love, Jennifer #HeartSeason #SpiritofCalm&Comfort #MotherEnergy #CradledInHeartEnergy #TistheSeasonforMagic #HeldinLight CONSCIOUS BALANCE
It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal experience and guidance. Sometimes, the path to healing can feel off balancing and can cause concern. We forget that being off balance is also for good purpose in defining it. The act of balance looks to the center of opposing forces to reveal a place of wholeness. This is the path to healing. The gift in that is in being open and available to both sides to integrate them as a point of conscious balance.
Let’s look at pain for example. Pain is real. It’s relentless. It reveals itself through the body. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of being held in, held back, shut down and buried within your own emotions. Your physical becomes the storehouse for emotional energy that has been ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed. Pain is a barometer, an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved. Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit- Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain? I have and it had a lot to say. Pain is a lot more than just the name we gave. It’s the culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and because of this, pain can be the source of evolution. Acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a healing direction. All of it is important information. Sometimes, the tendency is to give up because we don’t like what we see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time invested becomes discovery. I’ve thought about pain. I’ve been in pain. I’ve worked through and with pain. It occurred to me, like a whole being awareness that the other side of pain, is pleasure. What a revelation! It never occurred to me that pleasure could be a root deficiency to the experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I thank God for that moment in wholeness. Pleasure was now part of understanding personal balance and became a priority. When we embrace the other side, pain can rest. We cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. There was no more pushing or forcing life forward. The grip was loosening and I took in some fun, sweeter foods, conscious movement based on my needs rather than any “should’s.” My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. When you make your healing journey personal, it moves you, changes you, transforms you. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you need. Love, Jennifer🌸 Gentle Touch Healing Healing through Compassion - Inner Beauty Blog, Conscious Balance, Tiny Poet, 4.19.2024 AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGSJennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others. Categories |
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