The thought of healing can conjure up quite a bit of emotion in a person that’s been hurting for a long time. We want to heal and we want it now. However, that kind of thinking creates expectations not natural to the state of healing and the deeper connections that helps us transform. Some believe, a healing experience should be instant with the immediate absence of physical or emotional discomfort that requires no effort on their part moving forward. Nobody really tells you this but sometimes the healing hurts more than the wound. There are stages to healing like there are stages to growth and all of which, can be temporarily uncomfortable, even painful as we regain our natural state in being. As you begin to repair the modes of survival, the nervous system recalibrates and the differences between can feel foreign. You might notice you want to sleep more or are not feeling up to doing things you once liked. You might even feel unsure about your direction and find yourself at a standstill. This part of transitioning in the healing process can have you feel disoriented and thoughts can be more self-critical than nurturing. You start questioning yourself, whether there’s something wrong with you or somehow, you just missed the mark.
I believe, the healing experience is rooted in resolving emotional trauma. E-motion is energy in motion and makes up your inner source and well-spring of energy, you either allow it to fuel you forward or you hold it back. It’s your personal, internal barometer system that informs you about the quality of your energy, personal interactions, and gives you impactful experiences that you’ll never forget. The human habit is to not feel, especially, when what we feel doesn’t feel good. We’ve learned safety measures to help us cope by using blocking strategies like suppression, rejection, and disconnection. Inadvertently, those gestures retraumatize the wound in the most potent and precious portion of therapeutic potentials. The healing practice is to unlock held in or held back emotional content which, will naturally release wound trauma energy, (i.e., shaking) and its associated feeling, (i.e., disappointment). This means, what you’re working to clear will re-appear, and even, intensify so you can understand how to accept the wound differently, in a more compassionate and nurturing way.
Emotional purging is the process of eliminating emotions that become harmful to you and your life when contained over time, (i.e., anger, grief, resentment, sadness, hurt, loss). The purge is the peak point, the most powerful part of the healing experience. There is a gain in the release and you begin the journey back to your natural state and flow. You get a chance to witness locked-in emotions and feel their specific energetic signature. This allows the pain to be heard in a safe space, in its natural state, so you can truly let it go and free your energetic flow. You become available to your whole-self which is the most essential, integrative part of the clearing and cleansing process. Understand that even the most uncomfortable stages of healing are part of the natural process of release, repair, and integration. It will settle and you will feel more space in your body along with, a new energetic vibration you can rest assured in.
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Personal responsibility is an essential aspect of your health and emotional well- being. Only you can direct your path and the outcomes of your personal experiences. It's within your right to choose, to stand by your choices, and take the steps necessary to produce what you intend. In order to truly step into your power you have to know yourself well. Taking personal responsibility means that you take control of aspects of your life with a conscious intent to guide your thoughts, feelings, actions and words in your favor. It means you stop blaming; yourself, others, circumstances, the universe, for things you feel unhappy about or are not happening quick enough or even, at a stand-still. You stop complaining to yourself, to others, and actively flip the script to seek solutions. You refuse to sacrifice yourself by giving away power; to others, to circumstances, to family members, to the universe. You stop taking things personally and get personal with yourself. You plant the seed of happiness in your being, everyday, you tend to it, everyday and you realize you make your own happiness. It means you live in the present moment and use the power of intention to direct your life, in your work, in your family life, in your relationships including the one you build with yourself.
Taking care of yourself comes from the choices you make and that supports, the efforts in taking care of others. Healing is the potential of making whole. It is the complete experience of the self manifested, present and powerful. A healthy relationship doesn’t require you to fix another, wait for them to change or reflect back their harmful behaviors, in the hope they’ll act differently. When you take personal responsibility for your choices, you direct your path differently, not by circumstance but by your personal standard of value. Take control of your life and live according to your values. Your thoughts will be more productive and you’ll feel better. It’s okay to take care of yourself first.
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TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be quite a magical month and fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of holidays and witness the wonder through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis` the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path into giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The season fills the atmosphere with magic; crisp air and snow falling from sky, lights aglow on streets and in homes, long gazes into loved one’s eyes by the crackles of fire and sparks of sweet-hearts. We take care, nestling into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate. We bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones and we find ourselves surround by light, the illumination of our hopes and dreams in the stillness of love within our hearts.
The heart symbolizes life, love and the engagement in partnership. The heart never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other in the direction of union. A sense of union requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through the heart-experience, magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love, while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold what we feel. We are given an opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection and harmony both, individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us in order to create a spark of life, we cannot go at it alone. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification.
This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of self to the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest soulfully in the wonder and awe, completely disarmed and embraced in the natural state of being. The heart leads us to a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of old, a point to nurture life and all that we live for. It is a space given in which to surrender, to lay down a clean slate, to be re-born in concept as we celebrate into the new, calm and cradled in the mother energy, inside the season of heart.
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It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal guidance and experience. Sometimes, the path to healing has us feeling off center and it’s cause for questioning but we forget, feeling off center is also for good purpose. The center balances opposing sides and reveals a place of wholeness. When the scale tips toward into the wound, the other side of balance is overlooked. The gift of wholeness is to be open and available to both sides and to integrate them into conscious balance. Your personal path to healing begins inside wholeness not in one side of experience. Let’s look at pain for example. I’ve thought about pain. Pain is real. Pain is relentless. It reveals itself through the body, not just inside it. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space for joy and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of held in, held back, shut down and buried emotion. Your physical body can become the storehouse for ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed emotional energy. Pain is an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved.
Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit-
Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain?
I have. Pain is a lot more than just what we name it. It’s a culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and unhealthy patterns. Because of this, healing can be an evolution of all experience and acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a direction. All of it is important information to construct a very intimate healing experience. Sometimes the tendency is to give up because you don’t like what you see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time becomes discovery. I thought about pain. I’ve had pain. I’ve worked with pain and then it occurred to me. It came into me like a whole being awareness. The other side of pain, is pleasure. Pleasure. What a revelation! In all these years, it never occurred to me that pleasure was a root deficiency to my experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I never embraced the joy of life and in being because I never thought to look at the other side of what the experience of pain had to offer.
I thank God for that moment in wholeness. It moved me. Pleasure was now in the game and enjoying my life became priority. When you embrace the other side, you stop brow beating the wound. You cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look like the ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. I witnessed no more pushing into life or wanting to force forward. I could feel the grip loosen, I allowed some fun and sweeter foods, exercise was no longer a bloodbath but now conscious movement based on my needs for that day. Yes, I gained some weight but I also embraced that weight and loved myself anyway. My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. It helped me find the opening to the possibility of having pleasure move through me and integrate it into my experience. When you make your healing journey personal; it moves you, it changes you, it transforms you into a state of inner-conscious being. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you take in.
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AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGS
Jennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others.