As we travel around the corner in celebrating Mother’s Day we walk right into the steps, the man made shoes of Father’s Day yielding the same sense of celebration and acknowledgement. Some people were graced with having a great experience in their parental relationships with either an individual parent or both. In this scenario, a celebration of acknowledgment is indeed in order. However, what if there were no celebratory experiences with the male or female figures in our life? What if there were no reference to acknowledge? In this case, the need to switch focus would be highlighted and the key concept would shift from parent to the intention of relationship or simply to just relate.
Life has proven to be a breeding ground of opposites. There are two sides to every story, two sides of a coin, two sides of our brain. Life gives us plenty to mull over, examine, and differentiate when it comes to the antithesis of a whole experience. There are familiar references we have all heard of and become accustom to; male/female, right/wrong, yes/no, light/dark, good/bad, happy/sad. In Taoism, a Chinese religion and philosophy, we can see this concept of opposition illustrated in the symbol of Yin/Yang. The symbol represents two halves that come together to complete a whole expression. It literally means there is a dark and a bright side that exists separately; yet, both sides, are dependent on the other for a complete experience. What we rarely notice or talk about is the point at which opposition meets, the seamless place between the two, the grey area where a relationship between neutrality and balance gives rise to the whole picture. If we were to become aware of the whole experience, we could recognize both male and female aspects to our being within the expression of self. In the development of personal character, we can witness having experienced both right and wrong, while acknowledging the neutral place between the two extremes. Doing so, allows a space for personal choice which build’s relationship between the two realms of experience and gives reference to a complete understanding of the whole.
Celebrations like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day represent two sides of a complete experience. The examples of specific male and female attributes that allow for a deeper relationship, appreciation, and acceptance in stepping into a complete and rooted self. This is a point of power and a place where you cannot be swayed one way or another. There is no struggle, strife, conflict, loss or even indecision because in this state of awareness, you get to choose what you want to integrate into your experience. You get to acknowledge yourself within the two sides and you get to celebrate the understanding of what it means to be whole. Celebration is a choice. You get to choose.
Use this focus around Father’s Day to reflect on the male energies and attributes you can connect with and acknowledge how you’ve integrated them into your life. Then choose how you’d like to celebrate the richness of those qualities. If you want to further your exploration, take a moment to explore the opposite, the female expression and witness how the two halves come together for a complete and whole experience overall. God Bless!
~ J. Circosta, 7/6/2020
- Inner Beauty Blog
J. Circosta, 7/6/2020, All rights reserved.
In connection with All Faiths Seminary International, June spiritual blog, Celebrating Choice, ©6/1/2020.
All Faiths Seminary International: www.allfaithssemiary.org
- Copyright Disclaimer
** No part of this blog shall be used for publication in connection with any other types of media including but not limited to; books, magazines, internet publications and/or other websites without written request to the author, Jennifer Circosta. Only with written permission from the author, may any contents of this blog be published for public and/or personal use. Please note this blog is in connection with All Faiths Seminary International as part of their monthly newsletter and is the established entity with 1st rights pertaining therein. All Faiths Seminary International reserves the right to approve or deny the location of publication or form of media as listed above for this blog, Celebration of Choice, and pending approval, also reserves the right to acknowledgement and inclusion of All Faiths website to be displayed with publication, example listed above.
TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be quite a magical month and fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of holidays and witness the wonder through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis` the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path into giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The season fills the atmosphere with magic; crisp air and snow falling from sky, lights aglow on streets and in homes, long gazes into loved one’s eyes by the crackles of fire and sparks of sweet-hearts. We take care, nestling into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate. We bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones and we find ourselves surround by light, the illumination of our hopes and dreams in the stillness of love within our hearts.
The heart symbolizes life, love and the engagement in partnership. The heart never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other in the direction of union. A sense of union requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through the heart-experience, magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love, while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold what we feel. We are given an opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection and harmony both, individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us in order to create a spark of life, we cannot go at it alone. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification.
This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of self to the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest soulfully in the wonder and awe, completely disarmed and embraced in the natural state of being. The heart leads us to a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of old, a point to nurture life and all that we live for. It is a space given in which to surrender, to lay down a clean slate, to be re-born in concept as we celebrate into the new, calm and cradled in the mother energy, inside the season of heart.
#HeartSeason #SpiritofCalm&Comfort #MotherEnergy #CradledInHeartEnergy #TistheSeasonforMagic #HeldinLight
It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal guidance and experience. Sometimes, the path to healing has us feeling off center and it’s cause for questioning but we forget, feeling off center is also for good purpose. The center balances opposing sides and reveals a place of wholeness. When the scale tips toward into the wound, the other side of balance is overlooked. The gift of wholeness is to be open and available to both sides and to integrate them into conscious balance. Your personal path to healing begins inside wholeness not in one side of experience. Let’s look at pain for example. I’ve thought about pain. Pain is real. Pain is relentless. It reveals itself through the body, not just inside it. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space for joy and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of held in, held back, shut down and buried emotion. Your physical body can become the storehouse for ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed emotional energy. Pain is an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved.
Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit-
Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain?
I have. Pain is a lot more than just what we name it. It’s a culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and unhealthy patterns. Because of this, healing can be an evolution of all experience and acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a direction. All of it is important information to construct a very intimate healing experience. Sometimes the tendency is to give up because you don’t like what you see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time becomes discovery. I thought about pain. I’ve had pain. I’ve worked with pain and then it occurred to me. It came into me like a whole being awareness. The other side of pain, is pleasure. Pleasure. What a revelation! In all these years, it never occurred to me that pleasure was a root deficiency to my experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I never embraced the joy of life and in being because I never thought to look at the other side of what the experience of pain had to offer.
I thank God for that moment in wholeness. It moved me. Pleasure was now in the game and enjoying my life became priority. When you embrace the other side, you stop brow beating the wound. You cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look like the ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. I witnessed no more pushing into life or wanting to force forward. I could feel the grip loosen, I allowed some fun and sweeter foods, exercise was no longer a bloodbath but now conscious movement based on my needs for that day. Yes, I gained some weight but I also embraced that weight and loved myself anyway. My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. It helped me find the opening to the possibility of having pleasure move through me and integrate it into my experience. When you make your healing journey personal; it moves you, it changes you, it transforms you into a state of inner-conscious being. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you take in.
-Releasing Emotional Patterns
#BecomeYourInnerMostBeing #ConsciousBalance #WoundsAreOurGreatestTeachers
#SeektheOtherSide #BecomeWhole #WholnessMatters
AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGS
Jennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others.