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      • Poems >
        • New Poems >
          • Imagine
          • The Morning Quiet
          • On Why I Read Poetry
          • On Art
          • Our Song
          • Everything
          • Moonshine
          • Escape
          • Smiling Eyes
          • Mercy
          • Hey, Dad. Do You Remember Me?
        • Poems from Passion >
          • Part I >
            • When the Heart Beats
            • Let Me View Life- The Way the Heart Feels..
            • Little Girl
            • The Light
            • When I Called Her Name
            • Betwixt the Stars
            • Cherry Blossom's Bloom
            • The Smell of Rain
          • Part II >
            • Kissing Contusion
            • Inside Each Other's Kiss
            • Butterflies Break-
            • She Was Mad-
            • Fire and Ice
            • The Trace of Night
          • Part III >
            • The Moment Before Janet Arrived
            • She Didn't Know
            • I Pretend
            • Collapsed Star
            • My Heart Bleeds...
            • Love Divided
            • In Loving Memory
            • You Never Said Goodbye...
            • Life Teaches in Mysterious Ways
            • I Learned I was Valuable
            • I Choose to Burn
            • Good Love Doesn't Hurt
          • Part IV >
            • Daring Hearts
            • The Tides
            • She Fell
            • Your Presence
            • I'm Hungry-
            • The Seeker
            • Lady Compassion Waits
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          • Good Morning, My Love...
          • Tell Me
          • Lean Back
          • All Through the Night...
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          • Every Heartbeat
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          • Look Up!
          • Water
          • In-Joy!
          • Amethyst
          • Call Me
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        • The Lady and the Sea
        • Olly and Mildred
        • Super FLy!
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          • Official Teaser
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      • Inner Beauty Quotes >
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          • The Wind
          • The Heart
          • Connected Kisses
          • Beauty
          • Sweetness
          • Love Story
          • Emotion
          • Keep Close to your Heart
          • I Love to Feel
          • Saxophone Song
          • When the Lover Speaks
          • Shed My Flesh
          • Tongue Tied
        • Healing Series >
          • Break Me
          • The Process of Healing
          • True Nature of a Healer
          • Healing
          • In Order to Heal
          • Heal Yourself First
          • No Shame in Pain
          • Your Needs Come First
          • Heal the Self - Heal the World
        • Compassion Series >
          • Surrender
          • Love Yourself
          • Be Kind with Yourself
          • To Deeply Nurture Yourself
          • Feel What You Feel
          • Self-compassion is Courageous
          • To Surrender is to Accept
        • Creative Series >
          • Go with the Flow
          • Creativity is the Greatest Form of Conception-
          • A Writer
          • Good Poetry
        • Wisdom Series >
          • Spiritual Connection
          • Grow Your Garden
          • Life Happens
          • Creative Consciousness
          • Seek the Sensations Inside First
          • Allowing
          • Palms to Prayer-
          • Teach Other's Well
          • Sometimes... Life Steps In
          • Baby Steps
          • If You Don't Let Go and Grow-
          • It's Okay to Walk Away..
          • In Being One-
          • Opportunities
          • It's interesting...
        • Meditation Series >
          • Be the Example
          • Our Bodies Are Fluid-
          • Meditation is not just closing the eyes-
          • To Be Steady in Chaos
          • Silence
          • Awareness
          • Seeds of Light
        • Inner Strength Series >
          • Letting Go
          • Leave Your Mark
          • Trials
          • Those Who Strike-
          • Change Happens
          • Make Waves
          • Knowing Yourself
          • Courage 1
          • Courage 2
          • Strength
          • Transformation Doesn't Have to Hurt...
          • Embrace the Trials
          • Be Your Own Hero
          • Personal Power
          • Inspiration
          • Structure
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          • Root Invocation
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          • Foundation
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          • Sacral Shaped Chakra
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          • Rebirth
          • Comfort
          • Care for the Soul
          • Sweetness
          • Vulnerability
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          • Allowing 2
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          • What Makes You a Powerful Experince
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          • Heartfelt Motion
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- Defense Mechanisms -

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I CAN REST IN MY WOUNDS AND STILL FEEL WHOLE
In order to adapt to painful experiences, we adopt certain defense measures that seemingly protect our sense of self but ultimately, impede our progress to transform. These protective skills work to shelter painful experiences as a safety precaution and contain emotional energy that otherwise, would move with fluidity and important information. Essentially, these psychological strategies or defense mechanisms screen out unpleasant events, actions, thoughts and feelings so that we don’t have to actually experience them. They put distance between perceived emotional threats or unwanted feelings, like guilt or shame, to maintain some semblance of emotional stability. The assumption, is defensive measures help us cope in the moment but without conscious effort to emotionally disarm, they derail us from shifting hurtful experiences and dysfunction into long term balance and overall happiness.

In general, we don’t consciously choose to respond defensively, meaning we don’t decide what we’ll do when we do it. That’s why it can be so confusing why patterns repeat and things don’t seem to work out, no matter how hard we work toward wholeness. Healing rests in the courage to shift. So, it’s important to bring to light the distortions of defense mechanisms. The personal exploration can help you understand how these psychological structures may have helped you preserve emotional sustainability as best you could, under the delicate circumstances you endured. Also, you might find some insight into reverse engineering the defensive stance into a more compassionate shift into healing.

Love,
Jennifer
Emotional Concepts & Tools, 3/23/2021
#HealingRestsintheCouragetoShift #EmotionalStabilitytakesCourage #BePresentinHealthierWays
DISCOVERY EXERCISE: 
- Identify which ones you might fall back on.
- Observe what situations you might use each one in action and see if you can find a common emotional thread you might be protecting.

- Think about how you might reverse engineer unconscious patterning into a healthier way of responding to yourself and interacting with others and/or situations.
*Please note the list only contains 10 most common defense mechanisms there are much more not listed.
Explore the Common Defense Mechanism PDF attached below
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