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8/28/2024 0 Comments LOVE IS... Love is a powerful force born from within and shared between us. It is a path, a way, one of the greatest lessons in living life, and one of the most fulfilling experiences of all. Sometimes, the first experience with being loved is unclear and dysfunctional then later on in life, becomes the definition of love. You may believe, somewhere deep inside that love, is actually what doesn't quite show up as love for you; it hurts, it's painful, inconsistent, neglectful, and at times, empty. And because of this experience, you might associate love with feelings of disappointment, loneliness, longing, desperation, being or becoming what you think the other wants you to be. Love then might start to look like holding onto what doesn't really want you or maybe isn't quite for you in hopes, they will realize one day that you are worthwhile to be wanted and loved. This can be consuming because love never lasted before so, you take what you can get while it's there or maybe you just hold on tighter before it leaves you alone again. Sometimes, the pain, the loss is so great that you withhold love or wait for that “one” person to give you love or you give way too much love and never really receive it fully.
You have to remember that you are loving even if your first experience or experiences thereafter were distorted and unfulfilling. If the experience of love was never the staple or healthy and sustainable for you then redefining it becomes an essential act of self-love. I encourage you to think about what love means to you and how you define it for yourself. Below is my definition, a poem and nourishing reminder of what love is to me. LOVE IS... Love is knowing what love is, for you. Love is what reflects love back to you. Love is Joy! Participation, partnership, and reciprocity. LOVE IS... CONNECTION- It’s present, calm, and genuine, with yourself and others. It’s letting go, allowing others to be who they are. Love is a natural flow. Love is realizing I AM Love. I am loving. I am lovable. Love is balanced, mutual, and soft- a surrendering. LOVE IS... Forever... Even when it's not shared or gone. Love is consistent and steadfast, unwavering within you and humanity. Love is embracing, cherished, and cared for. It’s sustainable, nurturing, and nourishing. LOVE IS... FULL AND WHOLE- It’s worthwhile and valuable. Love is worth pausing for your inner worth and value. Love does not hold onto resentment, judgements, and criticisms. - This is a form of love too. LOVE IS... INCLUSION- You must include yourself. You must be included. Love, Jennifer - Inner Beauty Blog, Love is…, Tiny Poet, 8/8/2024
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7/21/2024 0 Comments What Feeds Your Soul? There are times when you want to experience life in ways you can’t readily see for yourself. You want "it," whatever "it" is but you can't seem to see or connect with it in your life. Maybe past trauma or mounting disappointment limit your vision. This makes it even harder, especially if you really don't know what you're looking for. Naming what you want is very different from acknowledging its presence and allowing yourself to receive it fully. We must be mindful of the tendency to imagine at times, that what we want in only one specific way and neglect the fact that it may show up in several ways never thought or imagined. A fixated mind is a trap. It prevents you from connecting with yourself and your life in a vibrant, present way that fills you up rather than subtracts from your being. It also perpetuates feelings of emptiness and a mindset of lack, (you don't have what you want, therefore it doesn't exist). This blocks what is already present and the capacity to build momentum into bigger, better, more meaningful experiences in connection with what you want.
I learned something about fulfillment. It was revealed in a way that I wouldn’t have thought. I felt a craving for chicken fingers which I usually don't eat. It’s the type of food I generally stay away from because at times, it also comes with a string of guilt after I eat it. So, I did my best to squash the craving and eventually, went on with my day. However, the craving came back and with a bit more ferocity this time and with that, I chose to honor the craving. When I picked up the chicken fingers, I noticed I felt happy and filled with a sense of joy just to have it. I saw myself smiling like a little kid, my face beaming and bright. I couldn't wait to get home. After I finished eating, I sat back and felt an overwhelming sense of inner ease and fulfillment. I learned that fulfillment lives in little moments connected to the soul and the soul, literally guides you to what does bring you happiness and joy in the moment. Fulfillment is about allowing the Soul to flow. You can't fill up if you don't allow yourself to flow. When you limit, restrict, or block your Soul's Flow, you cut off the energy needed to thrive. When the energy to thrive is cut off, you feel empty. That feeling of emptiness doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. You just can't fill the void with "things" that are empty to begin with. If you never honor the pangs of your Soul, the experience of depleting a sense of wholeness is inevitable. Fulfillment is about allowing yourself to flow and receive your Soul's guidance in the moments that connect you to your happiness and joy. Let's stop chasing the elusive "it" and start listening to the guidance of the soul. Let's stop limiting, restricting, and blocking and start flowing with the Soul. Let's stop being in states of lack and start feeding the Soul. Let's stop doubting the Soul and start trusting it to know what is needed. Let's start believing in the Soul to bring us to touchstones along the way, moment to moment, because if you really look, they are everywhere; ready, willing, and able to serve you, if you just give yourself permission to receive. When you feed your Soul, you honor your Soul and that's the highest value. Love, Jennifer🌸 Gentle Touch Healing www.jennifersmusing.com Healing through Compassion❣️ - Inner Beauty Blog: What Feeds Your Soul?, Tiny Poet, 7.15.2024  How often do you check-in with your Soul?
Let this sink in for a moment... How often do you connect with yourself when life goes awry or vehemently challenges you? When you've been blindsided by unexpected disappointment or uprooted by sudden conflicts? When a relationship abruptly stops or the position you thought you had falls through? When you're moving in one direction and then suddenly, you have no idea where you're going or what you're even doing anymore? How often do you check in with your Soul especially, when these pockets of time seem to short circuit? It's a common response to find yourself questioning or trying to figure out ways to "fix” or "make it better." It's also common to feel triggered, shut down, and/or assume the worst. You might even get taken in or swept away by external circumstance and forget to return back to yourself. There's often a dichotomy in life experiences. At times, you can feel you’re exactly where you should be, want to be, and doing exactly what you want with a sense of purpose and positive potential. Then before you know it, the lines blur, confusion sets in, and everything feels off-track. You question everything only to feel lost, unclear and severely uninspired. Somehow, you're taken right out of your being, uprooted and exposed. When everything feels like it’s falling apart, it's a Soul calling to return home to yourself. It is an invitation to ground down and replant into more fertile soil for yourself and your life. Resist the instinct to focus on external chaos and internal confusion. Don't attempt to understand or fix it. Run toward yourself first. Come back home first so, you can reconnect in a more soulful way, to what’s most loving, nourishing and vital for your well-being. This kind of authentic self-value is how you align with your Soul being. Getting into Soul Alignment is about acquiring self-knowledge through self-connection to plug into your deeper values. It's about asking the right questions of yourself and developing an unwavering understanding of your deepest qualities and healing potentials. So, when the storm comes, ask yourself these 3 questions: 1) Is this (circumstance, person, disagreement, behavior, thought, etc.) in alignment with my soul qualities? Knowing your Soul qualities offers a basis for establishing a foundation in the pursuit of self-knowledge. First and foremost, you must know who you are at the core and root of your being. Often, Soul qualities match your values and tend to lean toward non-negotiables as part of your inherent worth. You see Soul qualities emerge within the stages of innocence and childhood years. These qualities are associated with your purpose and contribution including your natural gifts, strengths, healing process, practice, and potential. You feel most alive when in your Soul qualities and most fulfilled within and when similar qualities are found and shared with others. True fulfillment is not about external gain or achievements, it's about filling your human vessel and experience with the qualities of your Soul or embodiment. To align with that you must know who you are at the level of Soul and in being. This type of self-knowledge confirms who you are and gives you a direction to walk in. It helps you land in ways that guarantee that connections are full of good fruit and purpose. It also helps you course correct when you feel off-track. Having the knowledge of your Soul, simply affirms when you are in right alignment and encourages your movement forward. 2) What purpose does this experience have for my soul? Every experience is a learning process toward healing any disconnections to your Soul qualities. This question works to guide you back to your healing focus. It highlights those areas needing more development and aspects of self to strengthen. Being conscious in this way, offers insight into how you can best serve your growth and transformation at this time. It also introduces a more gentle, nurturing way to change old ways of being that no longer serve you by aligning you with a deeper understanding of yourself in a more loving way. 3) By staying connected to this, (circumstance, person, disagreement, behavior, thought, etc.) does it move my soul forward in a positive, healthy, healing, more meaningful way? This is such an important question because it helps you break free from anything holding you back or keeping you stuck. It gives you an opportunity to re-confirm who you are, (Soul qualities), and reminds you of where you want to re-connect or align yourself accordingly. This question sparks your vision, ignites your heart and builds momentum forward in healthy, healing, more meaningful ways and most importantly, in ways that well align with your Soul which, is the most ultimate healing of all. DEEPER DIVE INTO EXPLORING INNER VALUES HERE>> Love, Jennifer🌸 - Inner Beauty Blog: Soul Alignment is a Divine Assignment, Tiny Poet, 5.26.2024 - Emotional Wellness Coaching: https://www.jennifersmusing.com/emotional-wellness-coaching.html |
TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be a magical month for some and a fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of sharing, celebrating, and witnessing a sense of wonder and joy through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path of giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The holiday season fills the atmosphere with magic. The air is crisp and clean, the sun glistens off streets by day and lights aglow in homes by night. There is a sense of warmth, deep nourishment, and care as we nestle into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate or bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones surrounded by light, hope, and the stillness of love in the air and within our hearts.
The heart is full of life and love. It represents engagement in partnership and never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other and always in the direction of union which requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through heart-experience, and this is magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love all the while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold everything that we feel. We are given the opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection, and harmony both individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us to create a spark of life and that we cannot go about doing that alone. It is about togetherness. It is about sharing. It is about giving and receiving. It is all about the ways of the heart. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification. This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of the self into the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest and rejuvenation through celebration and creation, completely disarmed and fully embraced in the natural state of being. Let the heart lead you toward a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of the old self. Let the heart guide you in nurturing your life and all that you live for. Let the heart take you in and give you the space to surrender on a clean slate, to be reborn in conception as you grow into the new, calm and cradled in the Divine feminine, inside the season of heart. Love, Jennifer #HeartSeason #SpiritofCalm&Comfort #MotherEnergy #CradledInHeartEnergy #TistheSeasonforMagic #HeldinLight CONSCIOUS BALANCE
It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal experience and guidance. Sometimes, the path to healing can feel off balancing and can cause concern. We forget that being off balance is also for good purpose in defining it. The act of balance looks to the center of opposing forces to reveal a place of wholeness. This is the path to healing. The gift in that is in being open and available to both sides to integrate them as a point of conscious balance.
Let’s look at pain for example. Pain is real. It’s relentless. It reveals itself through the body. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of being held in, held back, shut down and buried within your own emotions. Your physical becomes the storehouse for emotional energy that has been ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed. Pain is a barometer, an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved. Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit- Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain? I have and it had a lot to say. Pain is a lot more than just the name we gave. It’s the culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and because of this, pain can be the source of evolution. Acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a healing direction. All of it is important information. Sometimes, the tendency is to give up because we don’t like what we see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time invested becomes discovery. I’ve thought about pain. I’ve been in pain. I’ve worked through and with pain. It occurred to me, like a whole being awareness that the other side of pain, is pleasure. What a revelation! It never occurred to me that pleasure could be a root deficiency to the experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I thank God for that moment in wholeness. Pleasure was now part of understanding personal balance and became a priority. When we embrace the other side, pain can rest. We cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. There was no more pushing or forcing life forward. The grip was loosening and I took in some fun, sweeter foods, conscious movement based on my needs rather than any “should’s.” My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. When you make your healing journey personal, it moves you, changes you, transforms you. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you need. Love, Jennifer🌸 Gentle Touch Healing Healing through Compassion - Inner Beauty Blog, Conscious Balance, Tiny Poet, 4.19.2024 AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGSJennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others. Categories |
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