4/19/2024 0 Comments SHAME: The Teacher WithinThe inner experience of shame is so painful that it will even hide from you. It goes underground and affects your subconscious beliefs toward yourself. It carries notes of embarrassment and distress along with, a severe and relentless self-humiliation. It takes root in the perception of having done something wrong, bad, immoral or improper. At it's core, shame believes, "Something is wrong with me" and this is the deep soul injury. It distorts your sense of inner-goodness and damages your innate innocence by turning it into self-deprecation and deep self-loathing. Shame, thereby infiltrates your self-esteem, tarnishing how you appreciate and value yourself and ultimately, diminishing or completely obliterating your sense of self.
Your sense of self derives from your self-esteem, the image of how you see yourself and the results of that, always match the image. Self-esteem drives your vision, projection, and capacity to fulfill yourself and your life. Therefore, your level of self-esteem becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So, you have to be mindful in the ways in which you fill and fulfill the self. Shame, as the teacher within assists in shaping your self-concept, how you define yourself. It shines a light on those shadows that penetrate your identity and distort your Divinity. It helps you see those places of darkness that cover your goodness and works to connect you to your standards and values to remember what's important to you. Shame, helps you reconnect to who you really are, the original you. It challenges you to accept your worst as perfectly imperfect and supports you to rise into the best version of yourself. This is to say, that the intention of shame can actually guide you back to who you were created to be if you are brave enough to look at it and accept it's teachings. The experience of shame is waiting to heal you from whatever happened, to restore your innocence once again. But first, you have to restore your inner-sense, which is the only way to return to wholeness. In this way, shame offers a vehicle to take control of your self-esteem, step into your power, and build an unshakable fortress of self-love. WAYS TO WORK WITH SHAME AS A TEACHER HERE>> Love, Jennifer Gentle Touch Healing www.jennifersmusing.com Healing through Compassion - Emotional Wellness Coaching Here>>
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3/12/2024 0 Comments UNDERSTANDING ABANDONMENTWe all want to feel connected and embraced, taken in by people, places, things, and life in general. We want to feel seen and heard, safe, secure, cared for and loved. These are all basic human rights and essential foundational emotional needs. When these needs are not met, we feel alone, unwanted, unloved, disconnected and cast out as if we don't exist. There is a crucial inner longing to know that we are connected, not alone and that we in fact do exist. This is what makes the experience of abandonment so unbearable, and the imprint of it often carries into adulthood.
The abandonment wound is a complex trauma on many levels but, there is a distinction that's not often talked about. This may come as a shock, but the truth is only children are abandoned. Adults are not, they are left. Being left as an adult may feel like abandonment but it is something different all together. Abandonment is the experience of a child needing their parents or care giver to meet their needs, emotional or otherwise, because they rely on them for everything. So, when the essential foundational needs are not met, the child becomes overwhelmed with an overall sense of helplessness. Therefore, abandonment is an experience for a helpless child. This difference can help with understanding why one might revert to feeling like a child when the abandonment wound is triggered. It's like this because a child who is abandoned internalizes the experience as it could be the end of their existence and being alone is not safe. This fear factor is even more pervasive when abandonment happens in the early years of the child or even in utero, where there isn't even a language or ability to understand why a care giver isn't present or why they don't seem to love, care for, or want to be with them. As an adult the imprint of abandonment plays out by wanting love and connection but too much can be perceived as dangerous and not enough can also be perceived as dangerous. The element of danger kicks in inner chaos, contradictory thinking, trauma responses, emotional instability, shutting down, disconnecting, and even disassociating at times. These are all ways that one engages with the complex trauma of abandonment in the body. It affects our response system by engaging that primal fear that becomes the primary way to show up and interact in the relationship with ourselves, others, and the world. There's a constant hypervigilance to do anything, even if it's detrimental, just to ensure survival. This response can often perpetuate the tendency to abandon the self and sustain the reoccurring pattern and cycle of self-abandonment. The experience of abandonment can present in many ways; physically, psychologically, emotionally, even sudden loss but, the root belief is that no one really cares about who you are as a human being. Therefore, never allowing you to feel fully taken in and embraced. Abandonment at its core is central to healing from lack. Lack of safety, care, connections, importance, existence, etc., It sets up an inability to obtain an individual, inner space of calm and creating a co-regulated experience in getting into a calm, open space that is safe to feel and communicate in a fully connected way with others. It interferes with the healthy relational dynamics in general because if the primary caregiver was absent, the child was never able to connect in ways that felt secure and safe. It's this kind of complex trauma that prohibits safety and co-regulation because the belief is that everyone will leave and there are no safe and trustworthy relationships to have. Although there is a desperate need to connect, we wind up doing things, without realizing it, that sabotage it. Awareness is always the first step to healing. Click below to read more about ways to consider rewiring abandonment and slowly integrating then with kindness and great care. 9 Healthy Ways to Heal Abandonment Here>> Love, Jennifer Gentle Touch Healing www.jennifersmusing.com Healing through Compassion - Emotional Wellness Coaching She moves you, the moon like an inner ripple that awakens the surface and stirs the soul. Her vibration is so subtle and natural to being that for a moment, you can find yourself. You are here and now, reflecting upon Her reflection within a state of hypnotic solitude. She gazes upon you with full-bodied night vision and you feel safe in the sheer essence of Her light. It’s not too bright or harsh and you don’t feel exposed. You can stand before Her raw and naked, completely vulnerable to Her ways because you're sensitive to the subtleties. You are ready. There’s no need to run or hide because you're not caught in Her light, you are drawn to it.
She summons you by loving invocation and you submit. You connect with the deeper feelings that conjure the vortex of renewal. You are born again! Safe and sound in the womb of the Great Mother or Divine Feminine, a mysterious incantation of release and rest to realign. She holds your body, your gaze steady, and you can see light for the first time. You are awake, illuminated, and any shadows or darkness softly dissolve into the quiet whispers of nothingness. The Moon opens you, your heart, and you are available to Her Divinity which allows you to be receptive to your own. You can simply exhale, surrender to Her power, and trust the process because she is so, so, tender. She doesn’t lead by force or want anything from you. She is gentle, calm, and serene yet bold and present. She intrigues and fascinates the deeper desires, captures your heart, and you let Her because she disarms you. She grounds you deeper into yourself, rooted in ways that are more genuine to who you are and more authentic to your being. Let yourself connect with the power of the Moon, receive Her energies and let her move you. Love, Jennifer Healing through Compassion - Inner Beauty Blog, Connecting with the Energies of the Moon, Tiny Poet, 2024 Energy Healing Therapies, Emotional Wellness & Spiritual Readings- https://healing-through-compassion.square.site - The Moon energies are an experience meant to be felt. If you try to intellectualize it, you’ll only incur inner conflict and confusion. The mind doesn’t move with the phases of the Moon, the heart does. This makes it an intuitive venture not a logical one. The energies of the Moon don’t seek or search for answers because it illuminates the truth. It teaches how to receive information rather than figure it out. When you trust in that knowledge you stay on your own unique path, learn through states of enlightenment, and grow stronger with long-term sustainability. The Moon is steady in darkness, she does not waver. She will reflect to you what is necessary to witness with clear perception and reveal the truth of what is, what was, and will come. Moon energies are received, allow them to penetrate your being so you can be nurtured, nourished, and whole. |
TIS` THE SEASON OF HEART
December can be quite a magical month and fulfilling time of year. We get a chance to embrace the spirit of holidays and witness the wonder through the eyes of children and adults alike. Tis` the season of heart, when the world steps into a place of family, togetherness, and hope. It’s an end of a year that begins an active path into giving and receiving, rooted in a coming together of values and the essence of home. The season fills the atmosphere with magic; crisp air and snow falling from sky, lights aglow on streets and in homes, long gazes into loved one’s eyes by the crackles of fire and sparks of sweet-hearts. We take care, nestling into hearty foods like soups, stews, and hot chocolate. We bundle up with sweaters, scarves, blankets and loved ones and we find ourselves surround by light, the illumination of our hopes and dreams in the stillness of love within our hearts.
The heart symbolizes life, love and the engagement in partnership. The heart never leads alone... It never beats alone... One pulse follows the other in the direction of union. A sense of union requires partnership. We learn to connect and re-connect through the heart-experience, magnified between a pair of arms that allow us to reach out and touch what we love, while, cradled and comforted between two breasts that safely hold what we feel. We are given an opportunity to feel the magic of life, connection and harmony both, individually and collectively. The season of heart reminds us in order to create a spark of life, we cannot go at it alone. We simply relate and create in a blended continuum of wholeness. The heart does not beat alone... It does not lead alone... One pulse follows the other in complete unification. This is a time of un-veiling, re-vealing, and an un-folding of self to the inner sweetness of comfort and warmth. It’s a reminder of the mother-child experience, the inner connection and bond of unconditional love. Our very own place to rest soulfully in the wonder and awe, completely disarmed and embraced in the natural state of being. The heart leads us to a clear passage and cleansing, a shedding of old, a point to nurture life and all that we live for. It is a space given in which to surrender, to lay down a clean slate, to be re-born in concept as we celebrate into the new, calm and cradled in the mother energy, inside the season of heart. Love, Jennifer #HeartSeason #SpiritofCalm&Comfort #MotherEnergy #CradledInHeartEnergy #TistheSeasonforMagic #HeldinLight CONSCIOUS BALANCE
It’s time to get out of the “cookie cutter” version of what healing should look like and shift back into our own personal experience and guidance. Sometimes, the path to healing can feel off balancing and can cause concern. We forget that being off balance is also for good purpose in defining it. The act of balance looks to the center of opposing forces to reveal a place of wholeness. This is the path to healing. The gift in that is in being open and available to both sides to integrate them as a point of conscious balance.
Let’s look at pain for example. Pain is real. It’s relentless. It reveals itself through the body. It wants to be seen. It beckons to be heard. It tugs at you every minute of every day. Pain is restrictive, trapped in the body with no space and we suffer. Pain is suffering, the physical manifestation of being held in, held back, shut down and buried within your own emotions. Your physical becomes the storehouse for emotional energy that has been ignored, unacknowledged and suppressed. Pain is a barometer, an internal broadcast system for the feelings buried inside, screaming to be heard. To be acknowledged. To be cleared. To be loved. Every healing journey will not look the same. It’s a personal pursuit- Have you ever sat with the inner voice of your own pain? I have and it had a lot to say. Pain is a lot more than just the name we gave. It’s the culmination of stuck emotions, blocked feelings, experiences, memories, unconscious belief systems and because of this, pain can be the source of evolution. Acknowledging what exists inside you, begins the path that serves as a healing direction. All of it is important information. Sometimes, the tendency is to give up because we don’t like what we see and it can be hard to move through. This is when healing becomes dedication and time invested becomes discovery. I’ve thought about pain. I’ve been in pain. I’ve worked through and with pain. It occurred to me, like a whole being awareness that the other side of pain, is pleasure. What a revelation! It never occurred to me that pleasure could be a root deficiency to the experience of pain. I was totally invested inside the pain that I missed out on any form of pleasure. I thank God for that moment in wholeness. Pleasure was now part of understanding personal balance and became a priority. When we embrace the other side, pain can rest. We cease falling back into rigid, perfectionism disguised as discipline and the “trigger” has a place to go, a space to flourish. My personal healing did not look ideal or what I had anticipated. I found rest. There was no more pushing or forcing life forward. The grip was loosening and I took in some fun, sweeter foods, conscious movement based on my needs rather than any “should’s.” My healing journey through pain helped me find a better balance within myself, a conscious balance. When you make your healing journey personal, it moves you, changes you, transforms you. Shift away from the “call to action” approach to healing and move deeper into intimate understanding. Let that be the life-giving medicine you need. Love, Jennifer🌸 Gentle Touch Healing Healing through Compassion - Inner Beauty Blog, Conscious Balance, Tiny Poet, 4.19.2024 AUTHOR OF INNER BEAUTY BLOGSJennifer is a truth seeker and artistic expressionist. She is certified energy therapist, emotional wellness coach, yoga/meditation instructor and intuitive. She is known her poetry and the deep care she feels for others. Categories |
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